Monday, June 1, 2009

True Love : Love Or Lust

Many people are confused between love and lust. A relationship which is built solely on lust only will not last long. When choosing the right mate for your relationship, physical attraction is not the most important factor you need to consider.

Love and lust are easily confused because they are so much alike. Couples, who are in relationship, where they do not share common interest at all other than overwhelming physical desire for one another, may be just lust.

If a couple does not enjoy one another company unless they are having sex, it may also be lust after all. True love does consist more than all these things.

A couple who is truly in love will not care about the activity they are having, because they simply enjoy each other company. They share common interest and share similar ethics and morals. They find it easy to talk to one another about anything under the sun and are able to discuss any conflicts openly without losing their tempers.

Most long-term relationship are built on strong friendship which turn into love over a period of time. Sex in not the main driving force behind a long lasting relationship, although having it just makes the whole deal sweeter.

There are a few questions that you can ask yourself, be it whether you are a man or woman, to determine whether your feeling towards the other is actually love or lust just. Read them slowly and answer each of them truthfully :

1. Do you share common interest, morals and ethics?

2. Do you really care for his or her safety and happiness?

3. When in a conflict, are you able to talk to the other person in a very open, calm and frank discussion without losing your temper?

4. Can you talk to him or her about anything under the sun? Or is it just always sweet talk and sex?

5. Do you enjoy each other company, regardless of the activity?

6. Are you able to accept the other person when he or she is not in his or her best physical condition or appearance?

7. Are you willing to spend time with other person even without having sex?

8. Do you have mutual respect for the other person?

These are just some of the questions that you can ask yourself to solve the dilemma in you. Lust and love are just seperated by a very thin line. Therefore, it is important for you to be able to tell the difference in order to save you from wasting your time persuing relationship that is destined to fail.

1 comment:

  1. well..
    if u get d answerz then u understand watz life all about..:)